Finner-Williams Christian Counseling Ministry, Inc.
A NOT-FOR PROFIT PROFESSIONAL SERVICES CORPORATION
MARRIED COUPLES MINISTRY
TRAINING RETREAT
WORKSHOP TITLE: “Marital Secrets: Enhancing Romantic Christian Marriages”
With permission of the Church Leaders, the trainers will make available at a discount their recent book releases by RP Publishing Company entitled “Marital Secrets: Dating, Lies, Communications and Sex” and “Single Wisdom”
WORKSHOP PURPOSE AND THEME:
This Christian Marriage Workshop will focus on biblical centered factors, behaviors, thoughts and feelings that are necessary to enable marriages to function successfully from a Christian perspective. We will provide participants with empirical information on factors that contribute to the stability of loving, romantic, God centered relationships. The problems and success of marriage counseling will be discussed. There will be behavioral modeling conducted by marital therapists who are married to each other. One of the therapist is also a Divorce Attorney who will share her experiences and the lessons learned from her clients. Also participants will be given opportunities to demonstrate the new behaviors they learn.
GOALS/LEARNING OBJECTIVES:
- To learn factors that contribute to the stability of romance and healthy relationships for married Christian men and women.
- To learn how to enhance the sex, romance and intimacy in a Christian marriage.
- To learn how the signs and symptoms of Premenstrual Syndrome and Menopause have a direct impact on marriage.
- To learn what it means to submit to your husband and for the husband to treat the wife as he would the church.
- To learn how past experiences directly relate to present marital happiness, problems and stability.
- To learn how to effectively listen and communicate with one’s spouse.
- To learn how to forgive and reconcile in accordance with the word of God.
- To learn how to prioritize and handle marital debts.
- To learn about the 150 things each person should have known about their intended spouse before they were married, and now must accept without complaints.
REQUIRED EQUIPMENT TO BE PROVIDED BY THE SPONSORING CORPORATION, MINISTRY AND CHURCH:
- Long presentation table in the front of the room.
- Small display table in the front of the room.
- TV/VCR / DVD
- Flip chart with markers.
- Lectern (optional)
- Microphone (optional)
- Overhead projector for transparencies and screen (optional)
TENTATIVE WORKSHOP AGENDA:
- Devotion by the Diaconate or Ministerial staff
- Introduction Of Presenters
- Statement Of Workshop Purpose, Goals And Objectives
- Identification Of Training Expectations Of The Retreat Participants
The Diagnostic
1. “The Glazed Donut Exercise”
- How We Got “Glazed” In Life.
- The Dating Process: What to Ask and Know Before Getting Engaged
- “The Wedding Altar Exercise”
- “The New Unity Candle Service”
2. The Dating And Wedding Process
The Reconciliation
3. Communication Style
- The Intentional Use And Impact Of Harmful Words
- “The Credit Card” Vignette Audio-Visual Tape. “Straight Talk; Effective Communication Between Couples Video produced by the American Association of Christian Counselors, African-American Christian Counselors Division. The featured speaker is Dr. Atty. Paris M. Finner-Williams and vignettes performed by members of local church drama ministries.
- Setting Relationship Goals: Facilitation Of The Form
- How Men And Women Are Different
- How The Signs and Symptoms of Premenstrual Syndrome and Menopause Have a Direct Impact on Marriage
4. Planting Seeds For The Harvest Of A Successful Marriage
5. Bills And Payment Priorities Exercise
6. Forgiveness and Reconciliation
THE GLORY
7. Submission, Protection, Love and Respect In The Marriage
- The Lesson Of The 1982 Cadillac Biarritz
- How To Eliminate Bad Sex
- Factors That Contribute to the Stability of Romantic Relationships for Married Males and Females
- Male Intimacy
- Female Intimacy
8. Sex and Romance
9. Open Forum
10. Adjournment
SEMINAR SPEAKERS:
Robert D. Williams, MSW, ACSW, DCSW, LMFT, CAAC, ICAADC, CPS
Paris M. Finner-Williams, Ph.D., L.P., Esq.
Resumes and references are available upon request
| TIMEFRAMES AND STRUCTURE | ||
| OPTION ONE | ||
| Friday | 6pm – 7pm | Registration |
| 7pm – 7:30pm | Devotion and comments by Ministry Leaders | |
| 7:30pm – 8:30pm | Dinner is Served | |
| 8:30pm – 10pm | Training: The Humor of Marriage (1.5 Hours) | |
| Saturday | 8am – 9am | Registration |
| 9am – 9:30am | Devotion and Comments by Ministry Leaders | |
| 9:30am – 12:30pm | Training (3 Hours) | |
| 12:30pm – 1:30pm | Lunch is Served | |
| 1:30pm – 2pm | Break | |
| 2pm – 5pm | Training (3 Hours) | |
| 5pm – 7pm | A Candle Light Rededication Ceremony: Glorifying God, Marriage and Our Spouses (2.0 hrs.) |
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| 7pm | Closing Comments, Prayer and Benediction by The Ministry Leaders | |
| Total Direct Training Hours – 9.5 Hours | ||
| OPTION TWO | ||
| Friday | 6pm – 7pm | Registration |
| 7pm – 7:30pm | Devotion and comments by Ministry Leaders | |
| 7:30pm – 8:30pm | Dinner is Served | |
| 8:30pm – 10pm | Training: The Humor of Marriage (1.5 Hours) | |
| Saturday | 8am – 9am | Registration |
| 9am – 9:30am | Devotion and Comments by Ministry Leaders | |
| 9:30am – 12:30pm | Training (3 Hours) | |
| 12:30pm – 1:30pm | Lunch is Served | |
| 1:30pm – 2pm | Break | |
| 2pm – 4pm | Training (2 Hours) | |
| 4pm | Closing Comments, Prayer and Benediction by The Ministry Leaders | |
| Total Direct Training Hours – 6.5 Hours | ||
| OPTION THREE | ||
| Saturday Only | 8am – 9am | Registration |
| 9am – 9:30am | Devotion and comments by Ministry Leaders | |
| 9:30am – 12:30pm | Training (3 Hours) | |
| 12:30pm – 1:30pm | Lunch is Served | |
| 1:30 – 2pm | Break | |
| 2pm – 6pm | Training (4 Hours) | |
| 6pm – 8pm | A Candle Light Rededication Ceremony: Glorifying God, Marriage and Our Spouses (2.0 hrs.) |
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| 8pm | Closing Comments, Prayer and Benediction by The Ministry Leaders | |
| Total Direct Training Hours – 9 Hours | ||
LOCATION: To be determined…
COSTS: All fees and program structure are negotiable. Please contact Dr. Atty. Paris M. Finner-Williams at 313.537.1000 for further discussion.
Payment arrangements are that 1/2 of the total cost is due 45 days prior to the scheduled training date. The balance is due on the day of training at the end of the session.
Please contact Dr. Atty. Paris M. Finner-Williams if there are any questions, issues, concerns, need for additional information or elaboration. It would be our blessing to serve the married couples of your church or organization, and we welcome each opportunity to serve.
