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Finner-Williams
Christian Counseling
Ministry, Inc.
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NOT-FOR PROFIT PROFESSIONAL SERVICES CORPORATION
SINGLES MINISTRY WORKSHOP
TRAINING RETREAT
WORKSHOP TITLE:
"Single Wisdom:
Developing The Character of Wise Single Christians, Maidens and Bridegrooms"
WORKSHOP PURPOSE AND THEME:
This Christian Singles Ministry Workshop will focus on
biblical centered factors, behaviors, thoughts and feelings that are necessary
to enable saved single Christians to function and live successfully from a
Christian perspective. We will provide participants with empirical information
on factors that contribute to purpose driven Christian single life-styles and
subsequently, stable loving, romantic, and God centered relationships. There
will be behavioral modeling conducted by marital therapists who are married to
each other. The workshop will present lessons learned behind the desks of a
married couple who are married and family therapists, a clinical social worker,
a psychologist and family law and divorce attorney. Also participants will be
given opportunities to demonstrate the new behaviors they learn. With
permission of the church leaders the trainers will make available, at a discount their recent
book releases by the RP Publishing Company entitled - "Marital Secrets: Dating,
Lies, Communication and Sex," and "Single Wisdom." You can find additional information on exclusive-paper.com.
GOALS/LEARNING OBJECTIVES:
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To learn factors that
contribute to the stability of God purpose driven single life styles and sound
Christian men and women.
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How to set boundaries and
guidelines in single life styles.
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To learn how past family and
life experiences directly relate to a person's present happiness, problems and
stability.
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To learn the difference
between Pleasure Dating, Investigative Dating and Biblical Dating.
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To learn biblical remedies
for 20 common human fears of commitment to marriage.
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To learn the twelve
differences between men and women.
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To learn how to effectively
listen and communicate with one's significant other.
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To learn three ways on how to
handle verbal criticism.
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To learn how to forgive and
reconcile with significant others in accordance with the word of God.
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To learn about the 150 things
each person should know about a person before they marry, and after marriage
must accept without complaining.
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To learn what it means to
submit to a husband and what it means for the husband to treat the wife as he
would the church.
REQUIRED EQUIPMENT TO BE
PROVIDED BY THE MINISTRY AND CHURCH:
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Long presentation table in the
front of the room.
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Small display table in the
front of the room.
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TV/VCR
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Flipchart with markers.
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Lectern (optional)
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Microphone (optional)
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Overhead projector for
transparencies and screen (optional)
TENTATIVE WORKSHOP AGENDA:
- Devotion by the Diaconate or Ministerial staff
- Introduction Of Presenters
- Statement Of Workshop Purpose, Goals And Objectives
- Identification Of Training Expectations Of The Retreat Participants
The Dating Process
- The Dating Derby: Win, Place or Show
- The Purpose Driven Single Life-Style
- Setting Boundaries and Guidelines with Whom We Enjoy, Date or Marry
- The Character of Pleasure Dating
- The Character of Investment and Investigative Dating
- The Character of Biblical Courtship
- 20 Fears of Commitment of Marriage and the applicable Biblical Remedies
- The Finner-Williams Pre-Marital Screening Questionnaire
- 150 Things You Must Know and Accept About a Person Before You Get
Engaged to Marry
- How The Signs and Symptoms of Premenstrual Syndrome and Menopause Have a Direct Impact on Marriage
The Diagnostic
- "The Glazed Donut Exercise"
- How We Got "Glazed" In Life.
- The Dating and Weeding Process
- "The Weeding Altar Exercise"
The Spiritual Dance of Single Men and Women
- Communication Style
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The Intentional Use And Impact Of Harmful Words
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Straight Talk: Effective Communication Between
Couples." Video tape produced by the American Association of Christian
Counselors - Black African-American Christian Counselors Division. The
featured speaker is Dr. Atty. Paris M. Finner-Williams and Vignettes
performed by members of local church drama ministries.
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Exploring the Four (4) Communication Styles
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Setting Relationship Goals: Facilitation Of The
Form
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Exploring the Three (3) Problem-Solving Styles
- Planting Seeds For The Harvest Of A Successful Single Life And Marriage
- How Men and Women are Different
- The Spirit of Want
- The Spirit of Attraction and Attachment
- The Spirit of Abandonment and Betrayal
- Forgiveness and Reconciliation
THE GLORY
- Submission, Protection, Love and Respect
- The Lesson Of The 1982 Cadillac Biarritz
- The Spirit of Mary and Martha
- Successfully Handling Romance, Happiness, Love and Intimacy While Single
and Saved
- The Negative Impact on Victims of Sexual Abuse who are Single
People
- Sexual Addiction in Christians
- Generational Curses
- Major Reasons why there is Sexual Abstinence Relapse After Being
Saved
- How to avoid the Triggers and Risk Factors that result in Sexual
Aabstinence Relapses
- The Forgiveness of God for our Sins in comparison to our inability
to forgive ourselves and our offenders.
- How to walk holy and in the Christian Faith as a Single Christian
- Open Forum
- Adjournment
SEMINAR SPEAKERS:
Robert D.
Williams, LMSW, ACSW, DCSW, LMFT, CAC-I
Paris M.
Finner-Williams, Ph.D., L.P., Esq.
Resumes and references are available upon request
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TIMEFRAMES AND STRUCTURE |
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| Friday |
6pm - 7pm |
Registration |
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7pm - 7:30pm |
Devotion and comments by Ministry Leaders |
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7:30pm - 8:30pm |
Dinner is Served (Optional) |
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8:30pm - 10pm |
Training: The Humor of Singlehood
(1.5 Hours) |
| Saturday |
8am - 9am |
Registration |
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9am - 9:30am |
Devotion and Comments by Ministry Leaders |
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9:30am - 12:30pm |
Training with one 15 minuet break (3 Hours) |
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12:30pm - 1:30pm |
Lunch is Served |
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1:30pm - 4:30pm |
Training with one 15 minuet break
(3 Hours) |
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5pm - 6pm |
Dinner is Served (Optional) |
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6pm - 8pm |
A
Candle Light Rededication Ceremony:
Glorifying God, and Affirming Holiness
and Purpose Driven Single Lives in Christ (Optional) (2.0 hrs.) |
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5pm or 8pm |
Closing Comments, Prayer and Benediction by The Ministry Leaders |
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Total Direct Training Hours - 9.5 Hours |
LOCATION:
To be determined...
COSTS:
Very often several churches cooperate together in order
to jointly sponsor the workshop. For churches and non-profit organizations all
fees and program structure are negotiable and can be modified pursuant to the
church's budget. Please contact Dr. Paris M. Finner-Williams at 313.537.1000
for discussion. Remember that it is most important that we have an
opportunity to serve in the kingdom of God and we are always willing to
establish mutual agreeable engagement fees based on the church’s budget.
Payment arrangements are that ½ of the total cost is due
45 days prior to the scheduled training date. The balance is due on the day of
training at the end of the session.
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